The Life and Times

  So, I figured out what it’s called. Tokophobia . I wasn’t expecting the name to sound like that. “Toko”  phobia. Lol doesn’ t sound normal to me. Primary Tokophobia, the fear of pregnancy and/or childbirth. Tbh I don’t know why every woman doesn’t have this. The part that got to me was the reasons they gave for why a person with tokophobia thinks of it. Like fear of the imagined labour pain, or fear of body changes , or low pain thresholds . All concerns are valid , but th o s e aren’t mine . Although, now that I think about it, it could be part of it for me too. My body changing, truly, to never being the same again. That’s quite a change honestly when you think about it, from probably getting blind to my puss changing completely and then kids!!... and the body scars and the possibility of dying, and how often you hear about women, especially black women, dying so easily , because of little things in the delivery room. I am scared frankly because, like most of my fears- r...

A 4 MINUTE READ PHOTO BY  RETHA FERGUSON  FROM  PEXELS Even before the chaos in the world we live in became even more chaotic, getting into the zone might have always been an issue, at least at different times. I personally can attest to that. Creativity has a sense of mystery and elusiveness attached to our definition of it, and at times, we can feel like, if it doesn’t flow out like  a whisper in the wind  or in our dreams, or just all at once, through our fingertips, then, of course, it’s not really  IT . But that’s not how it is, not always anyway. We have the magical surreal moments when it feels like the gods and goddesses themselves drop bits and pieces of ideas into our souls. Other times, we have to try a little harder to get into it, especially when we can’t wait for the “right” moment to flow. So, let’s get into it. How do we help ourselves access this state of flow, at the times when it doesn’t come directly to us? Here are some tips. 1) Do Brea...